a penny for my thought- part 2

hiya, i'm back. yes, u have guess it right. i'm going to continue on the post 'a penny for my thought- part 1'. hope u people out there enjoy it n if it helps u someday n somehow, i'm bless. :D

Marriage is a whole new stage of love. It is very different from what the youngters are feeling and experiencing. Why is that so? They are still deeply in love with one another, if possible, even more so. But there are some new addition to the 'virus'(remember the virus?? if not u can check out the post 'a penny for my thought- part 1' :D) Yup, the 'virus'. The 'virus' like most or even all of its kind, mutates. It upgrades to suit and adapt to the harsh living conditions that its kind are facing, materialism. With materialism around, poeple will emphasis on material objects, comforts, and considerations. Which will result in a disinterest in spiritual value. Here, it means love. (As some will agree with me, love has a part of spiritual connection in it, some will be able to 'sense' what the other half is doing, thinking or even feeling, when they are miles apart. Its alright if u din experience any of it, it varies from a person to another.)

A few years have come and go, a young couple undergoes marriage. Yet another few months or years have passed when the number of times they share honeyed words and the number of gifts they give one another diminish. It can be possible that they don't see such gesture as tokens of love and gratitude, to them they are MARRIED, what can be done to show how deep they love one another, to them, marriage is the utimate stage of showing that 'i care for u. i love u. i want to be with u. i'm happy to be with u. i cant live without u. n such.' But they don't realised that such a special bond needs attention and care for a baby to mature and strengthen. They don't realised that small gesture of love and gratitude by giving gifts and showing affection can make marriage last longer and happier.

p.s: will be sharing on what to do and what not to do in marriage and bgr'a penny for my thought- part 3')

---TAURUS---

a penny for my thought- part 1

yo, finally i'm here to contribute to the site. pai sei. too many things happening n so little time plus there's only one me. pls pardon my language, n feel free to do any editing to it. :D

There are a few angles to how one can view marriage. it can be view as a legal procedure for people to undergo so as to buy bigger houses, have kids(hey, the kids have to have a whole family, right?), get special government package(for babies manufacturer), last but not the least, love. Of course there are other reasons to it, but for now, i'll name these few.For all those mention above, i'll be touching on love only(writer's block).

Love is a very very special virus that makes one crazy n give lots of courage for those infected to do tons of stupid things. It is very contagious. Infected personal will think of the people they want to spread to causing them to have difficulty concentrating on the work at hand, changing into near zombie state when he/she is near, see the goods of one another but not much of the bads as well as behaving differently and such. There's only one way to cure this virus, that is Marriage. Yes, i can hear surprise gasp from u. Dont be shock. Its only after married, that the symptoms disappear one by one slowly. Why is that so?

It can be due to the fact that the cured couple now have a near immune resistance towards the virus that they are not as worried to losing one another compared to before marriage. As time goes by, they the number of times they share honeyed words and the number of gifts they give one another diminish. And with times, their eyes enhanced by the good n bad events of life, starts to see each other’s weakness clearly, like a banshee among the elf priestess. The bads have outshone the goods. The good they used to see in each other seem to diminish with time, like a wilt flower.

--TAURUS---

Marriage...

Went to see fireworks last nite. it was really beautiful. All the sparkling rains are worth the squeeze & sweat. I feel like the whole Singapore was there. It’s always like that whenever there is firework displays. People were armed with cameras, video-cams, handphones, watching patiently into the night sky, awaiting the first shot of sparkles.

But why do we get so fascinated over a few mins of fireworks? After all, it is only a few mins of shimmering display and yet people waited for hours to get a glimpse. Perhaps is its short life that makes people cherish its moment. Fireworks won’t be such a catch anymore if we have it everyday.

Sometimes we tend to take for granted the things we always have with us and go in search for something that is far-fetched or elusive.

Much like marriages.

I’ve been observing my brother & my sister-in-law for a few months since they got married and heard their side of the story. Living together has seemed to magnify each other’s weakness & the good they used to see in each other seem to diminish with time. The no. of times they share honeyed words and the no. of gifts they receive from each other also reduced after their marriage. Perhaps those are no longer a priority now as compared to during their courtship. They have more practical issues on hand now – house loan, insurance, furniture, renovation …

Is this really the case when one got married?

To me, marriage means sharing your life together & your hearts beat as one. Worries should be halved, and happiness doubled. Yet many times the opposite applies ie Worries doubled and happiness halved.

They say marriage requires understanding, acceptance and trust but can these elements alone make a marriage blissful?

I wonder.
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--tinG®

Thanks Immortals

Guess is time for me to make a post.. =)
This blog is 'create' by the 6 of us... Some of us get to known each other since primary school while the other come into our life in secondary school... We have been through alot together... Really glad that we still stay as 'One Family' even though sometimes we are busy with our own stuffs... Still rem after our 'O' level, when we all get into different school, start to have our own life, our own friends, seldom meet up... but our friendship still stand... We all know that even though we seldom call, sms or msn but no matter wat happen, we will be there for each other... Sound abit mushy... hahah... But this is the truth..

To me, the 5 of them play an important role in my life... They are always there for me.. Givng me advice when i am in doubt, giving me a helping hand whenever i need it, especially in IT related stuffs... Whenever i am feeling down, this grp is always there for me.. Really appreciate it. Thanks alot..

Long life to the Immortals~~~~


'Bao'

Where is the Love?

Came across the 2nd shocking news yesterday as i flipped through the newspaper & read " Body of 2nd slain Korean found". For those who are not aware of this recent event, this is a short summary: The Teleban rebels have held 21 korean hostages & demanded that the Afghan government to free the terrorist prisoners by a certain deadline. As the deadline has expired, 2 Korean hostages were killed as a result, first one being shot repeatedly in the head and the 2nd one slain and left by the roadside. And this gives me the little inspiration to write this blog.

As i'm sitting here comfortably, listening to my itunes & typing out these words, i must admit i would not be able to truly understand the fear & agony that those hostages are going through, likewise for the rest of us. But what is it in the minds of those terrorists as they plot & execute their devilish plans? Is it purely for their extreme beliefs & "glory"? Or is it merely for the world to give them a little attention? As they shattered the lives of many & introduced terror to their victims, did the images of the victim’s loved ones & their own loved ones ever flash across their mind for a split second?

It is really hard to imagine how one can be so emotionless & brutal when it comes to their vulnerable fellow beings... Perhaps they wanna make themselves seem strong & mighty & heroic..but to me is just the direct opposite.

They are 'strong" for they act on the helpless & vulnerable, "mighty" for they are only able to use threats & fear to achieve their goals (no value-add & sincerity), "heroic" for they have obviously misunderstood its meanings. Or perhaps they gain their "glory" for being the most feared & hated by the rest of the world.

Having said all these, i cant help but feeling a little sympathetic. They must be the loneliest people in this world, isolated by the rest, and facing the dark side of deaths & suffering everyday. Some of us cant even tolerate a few bad words from our own classmate, and this is nothing compared to the amount of outrage & hatred & badmouthings the terrorists are facing.

They must also have known fear & pain really well, for them to so successfully instil it to their victims & loved ones..

They must be really deprived of Love..if not they won't be so eager to take it away from their victims & their families using such extreme desperate measures..

If they have families, won't they wanna spend a good afternoon chilling out with them, sharing their happiness & sorrow? If they have children, won't they wanna see their children growing up slowly in a beautiful environment filled with laughter & joy? If they have friends, won't they wanna create fond memories playing & joking together freely?

To me, it would be meaningless living in a world where u don't experience love or don't even know that it exists.. to them, where is the love?


-t|nG